Pretending People and Rules
Pretending People like to lie about why a rule is there, or make up a reason on the spot. Even if you change your job to prove that they are wrong, they may just make up a different reason. The real reason is that they are not a Self Guider and are uncomfortable thinking about how the world would work if that rule was gone. They have never heard of anyone that was in charge of them changing their mind. They don't know if it’s OK to defy their caretaker’s way. They will not bring your proof to their boss or rule maker, and will not suggest a new way.
Exercise: Say you ask a caretaker why there is a rule. What they tell you doesn’t sound quite right. You decide to go about proving them wrong. On another piece of paper, match what happens to the type of person you would meet.
| 1. Self Guider | A. They will bring up your proof with their friends and will try to have the rule changed. |
| 2. Wise Leader | B. They made up a reason for the rule. If you prove they are wrong, they will make up another reason or get frustrated and do something unexpected. |
| 3. Worker | C. They will say, “That’s just the way things are,” when you ask them why. You won’t even get a chance to prove them wrong. |
| 4. Pretending Person | D. When you ask them, they get really mad at you. They will call you bad for “questioning me” and “questioning authority.” You are not bad, though, because you are just trying to help. |
| 5. Misguided Person | E. All you have to do is prove them wrong, then they will try things a different way. |
Answers: 1:E 2:A 3:C 4:B 5:D