Caretaker Defiance Guide,

for Thoughtful Kids

Introduction

When is it OK to go against your caretakers? What does it mean to defy them? Sure, a child not doing something healthy at their parents’ request might be defiant, but what about hitting someone who pronounces a word differently from your caretakers? Is that defiance or respect? Is thinking that your caretakers have bad qualities, without them letting you know, defiance or respect? What if a parent asks their child to hurt another child? Is obeying them respectful? Is raising your own kids with less hardship than your parents gave you, defiance or respect? Is admitting someone is right, when your caretakers never admitted you were right, defiance? Is giving up hope that your parents are smart enough to try things a different way, defiance? Perhaps defiance is good sometimes, but when?

This guide is split into different sections to help you decide when you should defy someone:

• “Different People You Might Meet” lets you know the qualities of the type of people you should always believe in, qualities of the type of people you should never believe in, and everyone in between! (You don’t have to remember the names of the qualities, just what they are.)
• The “Helping You” and “Playing With You” sections help you figure out what each type of person thinks when it comes to playing with and helping someone like you.
• “Checkboxing Ways” is to help you figure out who is responsible when you do something bad that you thought was good, and who is responsible when your caretaker does something bad that they thought was good.
• “How Many to Bother With Your Problems?” is to help you figure out when you should interrupt others to ask them for help or just keep your problems to yourself.
• “How Different People Handle Advantages and Disadvantages” goes over how some people really like helping others when they can, and also how some people decide not to help others even when they can.
• “Testing to See What Kind of Person They Are” is a section to help you figure a person out if they don’t tell you what they are like, so you can better know how to treat them.
• “Reasons to Do and Not to Do Something” is to help you figure out why people might try to stop you from doing something without telling you why.
• Next, there are several sections about how someone like you and your friends can get along with people who are always good to believe in, people that are never good to believe in, and everyone in between!
• Finally, there are some sections about how those sorts of people get along and talk to each other.